Flawed and fabulous. That’s how I see myself now. But I wasn’t always so sure of who I was and it took me a while to clear the fog. Self-reflection never came easy to me. Maybe because I was too busy dusting the furniture. I’ve spent half my life straightening cushions, arranging wardrobes and wiping down kitchen counters. The leftover energy was used up on excessive worrying, pointless thinking and needless deliberations. Until I realised that life couldn’t say ‘hello’ to me if my back was perpetually turned on it.
Perfection is hard to maintain, trust me; and not really worth it. You won’t let the wind play with your hair, if you’re worried about ruining your blow dry? So I am learning to let go; to let life happen without my endless manipulation. What’s the big deal if the bed isn’t made as soon as I get out of it? Will my family disown me if I skip making dinner one night and order in? Is it a crime if I just want to spend the day listening to music and reading? It’s not and nobody really cares. I just thought they did. These are just metaphors or allegories I’m drawing for the bigger aspects of life. And gradually as I calm down, life comes beckoning to me.
The other day, we were at a dinner party and my young nephew shared with us his amazing philosophy on letting go – ‘ANYTHING IS COOL’. Coming from a 17-year-old, it was pretty deep. He droned on about how life can be easy if we just went along without making a fuss about everything. If you ask him what he’d like for breakfast, he says, ‘anything is cool’. Ask him if he’d like to watch a movie or just hang out and he’ll be like, ‘anything is cool’. This philosophy works well with the day-to-day stuff but when it comes to the serious things, it might not, he clarified. Like you can’t drop out of school or do drugs; that’s not cool. When it comes to choosing your career, you can’t say ‘anything is cool’. And so on. I was suitably impressed by his clarity and wisdom. I suppose it’s all about attitude. Being chilled out about the lesser issues makes room for your mind to deal with the bigger ones effortlessly. What stuck with me though, were those three simple words: ANYTHING IS COOL.
Somewhere along the way, I thankfully figured that letting go and finding harmony is important. By becoming harmonious, you start attracting positive experiences and positive people into your life. Toxic people, toxic feelings, toxic thoughts will always pop up. But just like in a garden, it’s important to keep pulling out the weeds from your life too. You will always be too much of something for someone. If they can’t handle it, it’s their problem. Just let it go. Apologize if you hurt them, but do not apologize for who you are or what you want to be.
After trying to be in control, when I finally loosened up, it seemed like I had underestimated the pleasures of an unstructured life. Now I wake up every morning and try to effortlessly move from one moment to the next. It’s exciting because I’m always dwelling in possibility. Anything is possible. Anything is cool!
Growing, improving, moving, loving, listening…that’s what life is about. Inspire and be inspired. Show people the sun where they once saw clouds. Let them do the same for you. We are meant to be wonderful. We are here not just to survive, but to thrive. When you stop and look around, this life is pretty amazing. And so are you!
PS: As I was writing this, my friend and I were having a discussion on whatsapp. And he said, “I am amazed by God’s world. He made everything, but doesn’t interfere in its governance. If a lion chases a lamb to death, that’s how it’s meant to be. He has set the world in motion and left it at that”. And I thought: If God doesn’t interfere with life, why do we? Think about it.
9 thoughts on “LETTING GO”
As usual a pleasure to read did try a few times to follow ur philosophy n it did work wonderful. ….keep writing n inspiring.
Thank you Baljit. Your feedback is important to keep me going; really appreciate it.
No flaws in this one just fabulously written.
Thank you, buddy. : )
Wise words..very simply written..keep inspiring..
Thank you, Mel. : )
Hi Renica , letting go is the best write up you have written . It has practical life philosophy to follow . And caution for important and critical aspects not to be over looked . And all the above is ao beautifully wrapped in your classical Renica style , so relaxed to read and visualize T the same time , your split bed , your rumbled hair , crumpled dress and lazi stance .
Keep it up with injecting your writing with some deeper meaning or humor , or philosophy . Though late reaction but I want to relish your writing before commenting .
I am learning Guitar and getting deeper into world of music . Sound of life and heart . Write some thing on music and how it revolves around u .
Thank you, Mr. Bhalla. You have inspired me a lot over the years too. The fact that you are learning the guitar now is so commendable. Always learning, always curious, always moving forward…that’s how life is meant to be lived. Cheers to your spirit!
Excellent article. Inspiring. More importantly, a much needed one, in one’s life.
I do use that concept with my word ‘whatever is there’! But to apply them in life, it never even occurred! The weeds and flowers inside our Brain! If only we know the differences!
That, this article is truly an eye-opener, is amazing. The way you take us thru, perfect to the walk, on how to know, what it means – Letting Go!
Excellence! Every word of them, I adore!
Keep Writing and Keep Inspiring.