The other day, I had the privilege of catching an uplifting homily by Rev. Justin, a very dynamic speaker at our community gathering. He spoke about how we focus on our little problems and make them bigger.
He shared a story which goes something like this. A young couple, madly in love with each other, finally got married. The wedding was an elaborate, expensive affair. Everything was perfect. The only spoiler for the bride was that her beloved brother could not attend. His leave was due a couple of weeks later and he promised to visit her then. So she decided to save him a piece of the wedding cake. She packed the piece of cake in a pretty see-through container and kept it in the freezer.
Sometime the following week, the couple got into an argument. The husband tried his best to apologize and pacify his new bride, but she was stubborn and wouldn’t even talk to him. A trivial issue blown up for no reason. Two days later, as she opened the freezer, she saw the cake sitting there and tears welled up in her eyes. That frozen bit of pastry was a reminder of their wedding ceremony, the merry guests celebrating their love and the vows they had made to each other. She realized that a little argument wasn’t worth all the pain of the past couple of days and immediately went and hugged her husband.
So yeah, the little things matter. We all make mistakes despite our best intentions. But what’s important is to keep reminding ourselves to ignore the petty stuff. When you find tiny nuggets of joy, try holding a magnifying glass to them. See how the smiles grow into giant grins. Life isn’t a joyride all the time. The humps will be plenty and they’ll slow you down. The vipers might get stuck and cloud your vision. You will run out of gas in the middle of nowhere. But always carry your magnifying glass wherever you go. Like the cake in the story, it will help you focus.
Time to simplify? Well, yes.